How I discovered self-love and how it healed me and gave me peace.
My Mentor asked me to share some of my story and as I sat and reflected , the following realization came to me not feeling good enough or feeling worthy to have my desires or dreams have impacted most of my life in a big way. Plus, my inner critic was also very good at sabotaging my efforts.
Many of my friends and family didn’t give me the support, in some cases they put me down for wanting to do something for myself. It was like “if she succeeds what about me?”, “I will be left behind.” Unconsciously, I realized I was keeping myself small and not allowing myself to shine. Until I realized a couple of things.
- My critical voice was a vice, that I used without realizing and lacking in self-love. When I realized my critical voice using criticism and judgment was an internal vice, I changed it by using love and forgiveness.
- This open me up to more self-love, and learning to love and believing in myself, learning to trust in the
Universe and source, knowing I was being looked after, and giving myself permission to shine.
I am great believer in Self-love and I have been doing this on regular basis in my life. Below I was introduced to Louise Hay’s 12 Commandments for Self-Love and I am sharing it with, because self-love has healed me.
Here are 12 Commandments to help you learn how to love yourself:
- Stop All Criticism (this is one I discovered I had as a vice)
Criticism never changes a thing. Refuse to criticize yourself. Accept yourself exactly as you are. Everybody changes. When you criticize yourself, your changes are negative. When you approve of yourself, your changes are positive.
- Forgive Yourself ( I love this one)
Let the past go. You did the best you could at the time with the understanding, awareness and knowledge that you had. Now you are growing and changing, and you will live life differently.
- Don’t Scare Yourself (when I get scared I forgive myself and say I love you)
Stop terrorizing yourself with your thoughts. It’s a dreadful way to live. Find a mental image that gives you pleasure, and immediately switch your scary thought to a pleasure thought.
- Be Gentle and Kind and Patient
Be gentle with yourself. Be kind to yourself. Be patient with yourself as you learn the new ways of thinking. Treat yourself as you would someone you really loved.
- Be Kind to Your Mind
Self-hatred is only hating your own thoughts. Don’t hate yourself for having the thoughts. Gently change your thoughts.
- Praise Yourself
Criticism breaks down the inner spirit. Praise builds it up. Praise yourself as much as you can. Tell yourself how well you are doing with every little thing.
- Support Yourself
Find ways to support yourself. Reach out to friends and allow them to help you. It is being strong to ask for help when you need it.
- Be Loving to Your Negatives (again I use I forgive you, I love you)
Acknowledge that you created them to fulfill a need. Now you are finding new, positive ways to fulfill those needs. So lovingly release the old negative patterns.
- Take Care of Your Body
Learn about nutrition. What kind of fuel does your body need in order to have optimum energy and vitality? Learn about exercise. What kind of exercise do you enjoy? Cherish and revere the temple you live in.
- Do Mirror Work (I Love this one)
Look into your eyes often. Express this growing sense of love you have for yourself. Forgive yourself while looking into the mirror. Talk to your parents while looking into the mirror. Forgive them, too. At least once a day, say, I love you, I really love you!
- Love Yourself…Do It Now
Don’t wait until you get well, or lose the weight, or get the new job, or find the new relationship. Begin now-and do the best you can.
- Have Fun
Remember the things that gave you joy as a child. Incorporate them into your life now. Find a way to have fun with everything you do. Let yourself express the joy of living. Smile. Laugh. Rejoice, and the Universe rejoices with you!
I suggest you find a compact mirror or use the bathroom room, and start saying to the person looking back at you “I Love You” and say positive affirmations like “I am worthy” I am good enough” I can do this” “I am open to and receptive to receive ……”
Talk to the person in the mirror, like you would a friend or a child, because self-love is we are talking to our inner child and giving that inner child love. Speak to it with love and compassion.
Do this exercise everyday in the morning and see how your life changes.
As a result of working with me you will find that your life will transform, and you will experience living in a happier, joyful place, and relationships will improve. You will have someone who believes in you, as you become the best version of yourself. I am looking for women who are feeling tired, unloved and appreciated, who are ready to turn their lives around and start living a joyful and happier life and be the best version of themselves.
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